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11 November 2009 @ 08:01 am

I got up this morning and made my husband and myself some homemade waffles. As we were finishing eating them my husband looks to me and says, lets lick our plates clean. I looked up at him and said "excuse me?" He smiled as he told me that we sometimes get so caught up in life that we forget how to live life, how to live in the moment. That we need to free ourselves and our souls every once in a while from this life we call "BEING ADULTS" and just throw in the towel to all these rules and lick our plates clean.

I laughed as I asked him if he was serious? He said "YES" as he picked up his plate and started licking the syrup off his plate. He looked at me over the rim of his plate and asked, "are you not going to join me? Come on honey toss away the rule book for just a few moments and lick your plate clean!"

I just laughed as I picked up my plate thinking my husband has gone mental. We sat their laughing while we licked our plates clean. I must admit that it was fun, and I did for just a few moments this morning feel like a kid again and it felt GREAT!! Just one more memory I get to share with him, and with our future grand kids.

Even though at the time I thought my husband was crazy, I now see what he was saying. We do get so caught up in "LIFE" that we forget how to live life. I use to be this care free girl, that would not have thought twice about licking her plate if someone suggested it, but after having kids and sitting good examples for them, that care free girls spirit's light had diminished into nothingness. That is until this morning, and now I have a smile on my face that cannot be wiped away, and my care free light has been re-lit. "LIFE" is to precious to just let it just pass you by. You've got to grab "LIFE" by the horns and break it's rules sometimes, so as you get older you never forget how to really LIVE, LAUGH, and LOVE with NO REGRETS!!

So break some rule of your LIFE today, the rules that you live by to be a good role model (not the rules made by our legal system...lol), and feel like you are really LIVING LIFE!!
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05 November 2009 @ 08:25 am
Looking at and answering the age old question, “How do I know if he or she is cheating on me?”, and defining what Physical & Emotional Cheating really is.

I see questions all the time on the Internet that ask, “Is he/she cheating on me?”, “How do I know when someone is cheating on me?”, or “Is this considered cheating?” So I have done the research, and found there are a lot of ways to cheat or be considered cheating.

Is My Partner Cheating?

If you are in a relationship and are constantly asking yourself questions like this then you should not be in that relationship. Even if the other person is not cheating on you, you should not be with them. It’s apparent after all that if you are asking questions like this then you obviously have trust issues either with yourself or with the person you are in a relationship with. If there were total trust, questions like these would not enter your mind at all.

How Do I Know If Someone Is Cheating On Me?

Well unless you catch them red handed cheating on you with another person, have pictures/video of them cheating on you with another person, or they come right out and tell you they are cheating on you with another person then you will never know if that person is really cheating on you. But once again I will say it, if you are asking questions like this about the person you are in a relationship with, then you have no business being with that person. Why would you want to be? And DO NOT tell me it is because you love them, there is no love great enough on this earth to put you through the constant turmoil, wariness, and stress of all the time wondering if someone is cheating on you.

Is this considered cheating?

Depending on your “this” the answer is probably YES. In today’s generation there are a million and one ways to cheat, emotionally and physically. There are people out there cheating without even knowing what they are doing is considered cheating. And with today’s technology cheating is made easier then ever.

Physically Cheating

Well the word “Physical” pretty much sums it up, but some people tend to think that if two bodies are not having intercourse then they are technically NOT cheating. WRONG!! If you kiss someone that is not your significant other (children, parent or sibling) then you are cheating. If you touch someone else’s booty, breast, or any other sexual area other then your significant others then you are cheating. If you wink at someone else other then your significant other then you are cheating. If you lick you lips or teeth at anyone else other then your significant other then you are cheating. If you brush up against someone else that you are attracted too other then your significant other then you are cheating. If you play footsies with someone else under any table other then your significant other then you are cheating. If you talk dirty or sexy to anyone else other then your significant other you are cheating. If you day dream about having sex with anyone else other then your significant other you are cheating. If you even hold hands with anyone other then your significant other (or children) then you are cheating. Anything that can be intimate in any way with anyone else other then your significant other is cheating.

Emotionally Cheating

What is emotionally cheating? An “emotional affair” is an affair, which excludes physical intimacy but includes emotional intimacy. It may also be called an affair of the heart. Where one partner is in a committed monogamous relationship, an emotional affair is a type of chaste nonmonogamy without consummation. When the affair breaches an agreement in the monogamous relationship of one of the partners to the affair, the term infidelity may be more apt. (Wikipedia)

Emotional cheating can be difficult to understand. It’s nothing like a real affair with intercourse. Emotional cheating does not by its own nature break any spoken vows, spread sexually transmitted diseases, or create those unwanted pregnancies. But Emotional Cheating can’t always be spotted in the traditional ways like Physically Cheating.

Emotional Cheating can be as devastating to a marriage or a relationship as sexual unfaithfulness. Determining what is Emotional Cheating is important to a healthy relationship.

How Does Emotional Cheating Start?

People in general don’t plan to be emotionally unfaithful to their loved one, but Emotional Cheating can start by casually talking with other coworkers or people they see on a regular basis and this grows into more than just being “friends.” They go out for lunches, or maybe take business trips together, or make some kind of special effort to see this person with whom they are getting attached too. They think about their “friend” more and more often, until it becomes a definitive emotional bonded “friendship”. These are signs of Emotional Cheating.

Internet Relationships

These types of relationships are becoming more and more popular since everyone either has the internet in their home or has access to the internet at work, school, or even at the library. Emotional Cheating can begin in chat rooms, social group sites (myspace, face book, tagged), and in forums. These evolve into private conversations and then into Emotional Cheating.

People who Emotionally Cheat over the internet may never meet their internet “friends”. This allows that internet relationship to be able to flourish in public places such as the office or in private places such as one’s own home. These bonds grow and Emotional Cheating can occur even when the coworker is at another desk or even when the family is in the same room.

If you share you and your significant others relationship with your “friend”, and/or your fears, hopes, and dreams, then you are Emotional Cheating. If you are keeping your significant other waiting while you spend time with your “friend”, then you are Emotional Cheating. If you meet your “friend” for dinner or lunch without telling your significant other, then you are Emotional Cheating. If you stay in regular, intimate contact with ex-boyfriends or ex-girlfriends, then you are Emotional Cheating. Emotional cheating can and often does spring from close relationships with past lovers. If you keep your computer, its files, and internet sites password protected from your significant other, then you are Emotional Cheating. If you hide or are secretive about your life, relationships, and activities of the day, then you are Emotional Cheating.


Great relationships do not happen over night and they never happen with out work and effort being put into it by both parties involved. Great relationships come from talking, being honest and open with each other. Great relationships come from TRUST. If you are not getting what you need from your significant other, and you start looking for that in someone else then please do everyone a favor and leave your significant other before you physically or emotionally cheat. Do not stay with your significant other because you “love” them, or you do not want to “hurt” them, or because everything else in that relationship is great but that “one” part that you are seeking in others, because if you really “loved” your significant other then that means you are being totally honest with them and whatever you feel is lacking you would tell your significant other and the two of you would work on it, try to find a resolution to the problem. If everything else in the relationship is great then that “one” part of the relationship would also be great. If you ever truly cared or loved your significant other then you would always honor them and yourself and do the right thing by first by leaving them before you ever Physically or Emotionally Cheat on them or yourself.

Remember life is short and your time should be filled with love and laughter, but if you are always wondering if your significant other is cheating on you then your life cannot be that full of that love and laughter. So talk to them, resolve it anyway you can, even if it means splitting up. Yes the splitting up will hurt, but it will also give the room needed in your life to find the “One” that will make you laugh, the “One” that will make you love again, and the “One” that will make you stop wondering or worrying “what if?”

*FootNote~My husband is a Psychiatrist and he is getting asked this question all the time from patients. So I decided to interview him, plue three other Psychiatrist, 2 Psychologist, and 6 married couples in order to write my review above*
05 November 2009 @ 08:20 am

When an old man died in the geriatric ward of a nursing home in North Platte , Nebraska , it was believed that he had nothing left of any value.

Later, when the nurses were going through his meager possessions, they found this poem. It's quality and content so impressed that the staff made copies and distributed it to every nurse in the hospital.

One nurse took her copy to Missouri . The old man's sole bequest to posterity has since appeared in the Christmas edition of the News Magazine of the St. Louis Association for Mental Health. A slide presentation has also been made based on his simple, but eloquent, poem..

And this little old man, with nothing left to give to the world, is now the author of this 'anonymous' poem winging across the Internet ...

Crabby Old Man

What do you see nurses? . . What do you see?
What are you thinking . . .. . . when you're looking at me?
A crabby old man, . . . not very wise,
Uncertain of habit .. . . . . .. .. . with faraway eyes?

Who dribbles his food . . ... . . . . and makes no reply.
When you say in a loud voice . . . ... .. 'I do wish you'd try!'
Who seems not to notice . .. . the things that you do..
And forever is losing . . . . . . . . . .. A sock or shoe?

Who, resisting or not . .. .. . . . . . . . . lets you do as you will,
With bathing and feeding The long day to fill?
Is that what you're thinking? Is that what you see?
Then open your eyes, nurse . . . .. . . you're not looking at me.

I'll tell you who I am . As I sit here so still,
As I do at your bidding, .. . .. . . . as I eat at your will.
I'm a small child of Ten . . . . . . . with a father and mother,
Brothers and sisters . . . . .. . . .. . who love one another.

A young boy of Sixteen .. . with wings on his feet
Dreaming that soon now . . . .. .. . . a lover he'll meet.
A groom soon at Twenty . my heart gives a leap.
Remembering, the vows .. . . .. .. . that I promised to keep .

At Twenty-Five, now . . .. . . ... . . .. . I have young of my own.
Who need me to guide . . . . And a secure happy home.
A man of Thirty . . .. .. . . . . .. My young now grown fast,
Bound to each other . . .. . . . . With ties that should last.

At Forty, my young sons .. . have grown and are gone,
But my woman's beside me . . . . . . . to see I don't mourn.
At Fifty, once more, babies play ' round my knee,
Again, we know children . .. . . . . . My loved one and me.

Dark days are upon me .. . My wife is now dead.
I look at the future ... . . . .. .. . . . . . . . . I shudder with dread.
For my young are all rearing . . . . . . young of their own.
And I think of the years . .. .. . . . .. And the love that I've known.

I'm now an old man . . . . .. . . . . and nature is cruel.
Tis jest to make old age . look like a fool.
The body, it crumbles . ... . . ... . . . . . grace and vigor, depart.
There is now a stone . .. .. . . . ... . where I once had a heart.

But inside this old carcass . . A young guy still dwells,
And now and again . .. . .. . .. .. my battered heart swells
I remember the joys .. . .. . . . . . . .. .. I remember the pain.
And I'm loving and living . . . .. .... . . . . . . . . life over again..

I think of the years . all too few . . . . . . gone too fast.
And accept the stark fact . . ... .. . .. . . that nothing can last.
So open your eyes, people . .. .. .. . . . . open and see..
Not a crabby old man . Look closer . .. . . see . . . . . . . . ME!!

Remember this poem when you next meet an older person who you might brush aside without looking at the young soul within .. . . .. . we will all, one day, be there, too!

The best and most beautiful things of this world can't be seen or touched. They must be felt by the heart.
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04 November 2009 @ 02:24 pm

Greed~excessive or rapacious desire for wealth or possessions.

Greed comes in all shapes, sizes, and form. There is a little too much greed going on in society and some psychologist believed that America is the land of the greed.

The world of Capitalism is what is making this country “Greedy” by modernized things to fit into the daily lives of people. The need for these modernized things makes people ever more “Greedy” then ever.

Everyone wants money and we all want a ton of it. We want the prestige that comes with having money and materialistic things. “Greed” can make honest men murderers. It has made countries with rich valuable resources into the poorest countries in the world.

“Greed” is also one of the 7 Deadly Sins:

Wikipedia-The Seven Deadly Sins, also known as the Capital Vices or Cardinal Sins, is a classification of the most objectionable vices which has been used since early Christian times to educate and instruct followers concerning (immoral) fallen man's tendency to sin. It consists of "Lust", "Gluttony", "Greed", "Sloth", "Wrath", "Envy", and "Pride".

“Greed” just makes people petty, devious, petty, jealous, and unlovable. “Greed” has caused men and women to commit crimes such as murder.

So the next time you want to buy yourself something nice, big, or extravagant, ask yourself this question: “Do I really need it or am I just wanting it because I am being greedy?”

I wrote this post because I have a family member that always has to out do everyone else in the family no matter what. He would put his need to out do us before the need to provide for his family. We have done the whole family intervention thing, asking him to get help, but you see the problem is HE does not see himself as having a problem.

Thanks for reading!!
Current Location: United States, Arkansas,
04 November 2009 @ 01:34 pm

Standing here looking around
I no not where I am
Confused and dazed; Lost and weighed
To a passerby I seek the time
Then the day & month oh my
It was July now it’s June
All is lost I am domed
My Mother I call as my eyes fill with tears
My mind is racing and full of fear
To my surprise I had been missing for a days
My parents, my friends searched and prayed
That I would return safe and sound
I told my Mom I wanted to be home bound
Once my Father came to my aid
I embraced within in him & my fears did fade
As we drove home my father said to me
What happen to you, why did you flee?
My voice broke as I replied
I cannot not remember and then I cried
Many doctors I was taken too
They all complied with what was true
D.I.D is my diagnosis
Sometimes it can be helped with Hypnosis
It causes one to lose track of time
A day, a month or more to climb
It is caused by hidden memories of time
Something happen a horrific crime
Too scared to leave my safe zone
So now I never leave my home
2 years now have come and gone
Not once have I stepped out onto our lawn
An Agoraphobic is what I have become
The outside world I will abstain from
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